Checking out Assumptions

When I lack information, I tend to make up stories about others’ intentions.  I then believe these stories and they become fact to me.  Next, I go to battle because I think my assumptions are accurate and I feel justified or sometimes slighted.  This is a pattern of behavior that has not worked out so well.  Today, I have learned to check out my interpretations and judgments.  Occasionally I am spot-on but usually I find I have misunderstood what's being said.  When I mirror back what I’m perceiving I or how I experience another’s behavior, it creates understanding, connection, and furthers communication.  So, I will remember; “What I hear you saying is…” "The way I experience that is ..."