There is a difference between criticizing another and
letting another know what I need. My
tendency is to tell YOU how you aren’t measuring up rather than letting you
know what I need. I want to remember that communicating I need YOU to do
something is very different from I need something. When I acknowledge my own needs, it’s a softer and gentler, non-demanding expression and more likely to be
heard and received without defensiveness.
I am tired of unconsciously pushing others away with my unintentional
criticism.
Today, I intend to increase awareness of how often and how I
communicate to others my expectations that they change. I will recognize and validate my own needs
and try to communicate these needs without blaming you for not meeting
them.
Wow...communication is a two way experience...expressive and receptive. This affirmation makes me think about how important it is to not personalize verbal exchanges and inflame the situation. Communication is the connection that pulls us together. My affirmation is, despite my early conditioning of being afraid to try or even to want to connect, to stay present and to reach out to communicate and connect. I want and need to have this connection.
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