Shame resides very near my needing to be heard and seen, to
be given attention. When I become aware of this need I tell myself ‘how
selfish are you’ and ‘shame on you’, which intensifies my belief that I don’t
deserve to be acknowledged or loved. Then,
I reach out and try to get what I need by over-giving to others which ends in my
feeling resentment and bitterness, which tends to reinforce my belief that I'm not loveable. Not a
very pretty picture. I realize that my
need and want of being special is an echo of my early years of rejection and
neglect.
Rather than pushing myself away and re-wounding this part of
me, today I choose to treat myself with kindness and respect. I will whisper words of acceptance and be
present to my need for approval, letting myself know that I see me. I refuse to shame myself any longer for
having this need. I am worth loving.
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