LETTING IN THE COMFORT

Can I allow myself to receive comfort?  As a younger person I learned to keep a ‘stiff upper lip’ and not ‘be a baby’.  I discovered that the people around me weren’t available or interested in my moments of setback and hurt.  They were more focused on themselves and their own needs, so I began to keep to myself and hold in my pain, putting a stone wall around my heart.  I told myself “I’m self-reliant, I don’t need anyone’s sympathy” and pushed away those who tried to extend care and support.  Through the years I came to believe that it takes a very strong person to permit others to see their vulnerability or weakness, someone who can trust and doesn’t have to hold on so tightly to self-control.

Today, I know that it is safe to open my heart to receive the love and tenderness that others offer.  I can let my friends know when I am upset and need support or reassurance.  I can be soothed by their kindness and compassion relaxing in the knowledge that what I feel, think and need matters not only to me but also to those who love me.  I will trust those in my social support system and let myself take in the care they extend to me.