DEALING WITH CRITICISM

When given information that I don’t measure up to another’s standards I have a few options.

·       I can pack up my toys and go home, shutting the door on further connection. 

·       I can become defensive and blame you; point the finger and start a feud.

·       I can consider what’s said and decide whether or not the feedback is helpful to me.  Perhaps I’m being invited to grow and expand myself and although it’s uncomfortable it might be worth exploring. 

·       I can evaluate the criticism and choose to respond assertively, expressing what I think, feel and need.  Perhaps clearing up misunderstanding and hurt and increasing the possibility of acceptance and support.

Today, I have the resources to step away from reactivity and make a conscious, deliberate choice.  I will take my time responding and allow myself the opportunity to evaluate your disapproval.  I choose to build bridges, to find creative solutions, and to open doors.  I am strong enough to listen and keep my heart open.