STAYING SAFELY CONNECTED

It is safe to discard old defenses that no longer serve me.  Isolating and withdrawing to keep from being hurt only perpetuates loneliness and distrust of others.  This may have been useful when I was unable to set boundaries or protect myself from those in my life.  However, now I can now set boundaries and separate myself from those who wound me.  I can speak up and clarify misunderstandings that are offensive.  I can give myself permission to say no and choose to connect with people I trust and love. 

 

When I feel the old defensive movement to push away inside me today, I will take stock of what is triggering me, ascertain whether or not I am safe, reassure and comfort myself, reinforce any necessary boundaries, breathe, and remain present.  I will not run away from encounters or relationships just because there is discord.  I choose to stay safely connected.