DEALING WITH FEELINGS

I often forget what I feel is dependent on my beliefs and thoughts.  I feel sad, disappointed, hurt, angry, happy, or whatever and can easily blame others for generating these feelings in me.  By doing so, I absolve myself of responsibility and feel disempowered.  No wonder it’s so easy to feel victimized and out of control.  I can sometimes overlook the fact that my feelings are created by my own judgments, interpretations, assumptions, and the stories I tell myself about the events that occur in my life.  If I choose to tell myself ‘this is the worst day ever’ or ‘things should go the way I want them to go and it’s horrible when they don’t’, of course I’m going to feel very frustrated and upset.  If I choose to tell myself ‘this isn’t what I want, but sometimes I get what I want and sometimes I don’t’, then I still feel may feel discouraged but it won’t be such an extreme experience. 

Today, I will take responsibility for my feelings, thoughts and actions.  I will recognize when blaming others surfaces in my mind and remind myself that no one is ultimately in control of my life, except me.  I can acknowledge my feelings and find ways to get my needs met.  I accept myself; my feelings, thoughts, needs, actions.  This is my life to live as I choose.