It is so very easy to find myself in the rescuer role. Someone makes a request and before I know it
I say okay, rather than setting a boundary.
I’m asked to go along with something I don’t want to do and rather than
standing my ground, I say yes to avoid conflict. Unfortunately, the conflict still exists it’s
just inside me now as I wrestle with resentment and bitterness and grow angry
at myself for backing down. I start to
feel sorry for myself and try to justify my action by saying ‘Well, I didn’t really
have a choice.’ I forget that I gave
away my power and choice.
Today I want to remain centered in my truth and
strong in my commitment to set healthy emotional boundaries. I will say no, even if it creates struggle. I will remind myself that I am not
responsible for making those around me happy. I will express my feelings,
thoughts and needs assertively and allow others to deal with their own
disappointment and frustration. I have a
right to take care of myself even if it inconveniences or displeases someone
else. I will remain conscious of the
choices I make today and say yes to me.
It is a goal to do so. Sometimes it is so natural just to rescue all around me...except me. I will take in what you wrote, reflect on its merits and try to pull the strength to find my voice.
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