Meeting my own expectations of myself can be a demanding
task. My internal critic wreaks havoc within
by vigilantly watching for those moments of vulnerability or imperfection that
can be held up as proof of failure. This
endless faultfinding creates discouragement, depression, and dissatisfaction,
leading to a spiral of self-hatred and shame.
I am aware that when this part of me is unmasked, I simply find a scared
little child who is desperate to avoid hurt, rejection, and suffering while using
this ancient defense system in an effort to provide safety and security. Despite projecting power and control, in
reality I find a frightened and quivering child.
What you write makes perfect sense, but the application is very difficult. Self acceptance is a goal that I keep moving forward towards.
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