FORGIVENESS

To let go of my grievances, have a willingness to start over, and resist bringing up old accusations; forgiveness really requires a great deal of courage and trust.  I sometimes cling to my criticisms and complaints as if they will provide protection or shield me from future pain.  In reality, they only amplify my hurt and create an increased sense of victimization.  It is important to communicate when I experience distress or disrespect, to stand up for myself and let others know when they have offended me.  It is also important to be adequately heard, understood, and validated.  However, when others have sincerely expressed regret or admitted guilt and made amends, at some point I have to make a decision to let go and forgive.

Today, I will comfort and reassure the parts of myself that want to defend and isolate.  I will remind myself that it is safe to trust again and that I can let go of old resentments and start over.  I will free myself from relationships that are hurtful, repeatedly wounding and unhealthy.  I will hold on to the connections in my life that open me to growth, acceptance, and love.  I can forgive and believe in new beginnings.