MAKING ASSUMPTIONS

How often have I heard “Well, I assumed that…” or have I thought “That must mean…”  Assumptions and judgments so easily warp my reality.  They convince me that my interpretations are justified and that my perceptions are ‘the truth’.  Sometimes, I forget that although my thoughts and feelings are valid they aren’t necessarily facts.  My assumptions tend to be built on old expectations of rejection, betrayal, and hurt.  When I jump to conclusions and then act on them, I increase my distress, which creates chaos for myself and others, and prevents the connection I desire.  

Today, I will check out my judgments before I act.  I will steer clear of assumptions and ask for clarification to be sure I am hearing accurately before I solidify my experience into fact.  I will be curious, open my mind to alternative interpretations and modify my beliefs when needed.   I choose to listen to what you are saying rather than what I expect you to say.